How can I be mentally stronger and more focused?

During my adolescence my parents owned a bookstore, nowadays this seems like a dream come true, but at that time I didn’t care. I never sat down to read a single book having the possibility to do it every day.

My way of thinking was: I don’t like to read. That was “my truth”.

I defended tooth and nail my ability to never read, I was even proud of this. I had classmates from high school who were different from me. Rather, they were envious of not being able to access these books.

“Why don’t you take advantage and read?” -they told me.

—I don’t like it, I prefer the movie.

It’s funny because today I am the result of having spent hundreds of hours reading sickly. I challenged my thinking to the point where I had to “leave” myself behind.

Our beliefs can work for us or against us. The stories we tell ourselves will determine the quality of life we ​​have.

If you think you’re not good at something, you won’t bother practicing it. If you think you’re not fit for a job, even if you are, you’ll never apply. It is our convictions that determine whether we will move forward or hit the brakes.

A mentally strong person must question their beliefs to train the voice in their head. In our arrogance, we believe that every thought that crosses our minds is true. Some will be, not all. Learning to recognize the difference is a process of self-discovery worth going through.

These are 5 ways to exercise our ability to make decisions, be mentally strong and focus our emotions on the right things.

  1. DON’T AFFIRM SOMETHING WITHOUT HAVING PUT IT TO THE TEST: From judging someone as “narcissistic” just because they like to dress well, to believing that your opinion doesn’t matter. Don’t assume something just because your mind is giving you a thought. Get to know the person without criticizing them, express your opinion with respect and firmness before canceling it.
  2. DON’T BE A TARGET WITH LEGS: When a thought prompts you to give up, lower your arms and surrender to the circumstances, it’s not true. There is always something we can do beyond the size of the step. Fight against this poison dart designed to destroy you. Talk the opposite of what you think, that’s the best way to fight. Don’t be a target for the negative.
  3. DON’T SHOW PITY FOR YOURSELF: Don’t spend an hour looking in the mirror feeling sorry for some difficult situation you’re going through. You’re more than that. There will always be someone in a worse position than you with their heads held high. Believing in you is a personal decision. You must take it beyond what you feel, think or believe in a moment of weakness.
  4. DON’T VICTIMIZE YOURSELF: “This kind of thing always happens to me”, “Life is against me”. No, life always plays in your favor if you decide to see it that way. It is a matter of perspective. The problem is that as human beings we raise our expectations to a point where anything that could be seen as negative happens, we get discouraged. We are responsible for what we feel. It won’t always be easy, but we don’t have to make it harder by victimizing ourselves.
  5. DON’T STOP READING ABOUT YOUR EXPERIENCES: By this I mean constantly learning from your mistakes. There are those who trip over the same stone over and over again because they never stopped to check their steps.